The narcissist wants what they want... when they want it. If you don't adjust to their schedule and their needs, they will vacillate between guilt, anger, and dismissal as punishment and manipulation. They will go out of their way to let you know the "trouble" they go through for things they do for you or the money they spend on you. But no matter how grateful you seem to be or how much you tell them that you appreciate things... you get the feeling that it's never quite good enough.