I was married for 11 years to the man I share four kids with. The marriage ended after he had an affair with a woman who used to be a friend of mine (and who he is now married to). I have recently started dating a man after being single for seven years, and he is a wonderful man, who loves spending time with me — and vice versa — and even taking time to get to know my children when we see each other.  We live an hour away from each other and I have never had a long distance relationship before. My question to you is: How do I get over my insecurity, and thinking he's going to do the same thing to me as my ex-husband did?