Are you looking for something casual or something more? Generally speaking, physical attraction and infatuation can give off a false positive of "real connection". But unless both people are looking for the same thing—fling or long-term—there will likely be a disconnect—as so many friend-with-benefits relationships now show. As you get to know new people, get clear on where things are going and what you both want from each other at this time in your life—and do so from an objective standpoint. Make sure you are seeing who they are and where they are at, and not who you wish they were.