Ask Charles: "What does he mean in this text?"


Dear Charles:

What's the deal with this? I text him for a couple of days, and no answer. Then at late at night, I get this over text. And yes, he came over. And yes I slept with him that night. And the next day he was 'working' again. We've been dating for a couple of months and this has happened like once a week. What's his deal? Is he into me? 


Dear S:

Here's the Harsh Truth: No matter what his schedule, a guy who is truly into you will either make time for you, or he will make sure you are fully aware of why he doesn't/can't have time right at the moment. So... if he's playing The Invisible Man Game once-a-week, and he's not really taking you out/spending *real* time with you after a couple of months... he's holding you at arm's length. AND... if he's sending you these kinds of texts at 11:00pm after a couple of days of silence... he's not into YOU... he's into your vagina. This is an obvious booty call... and unfortunately you provided what he wanted... and now he's gone again. Don't worry... he'll be back... when he wants more sex. The question is: Will you still be available to be his Personal Vagina Provider with nothing else coming your way... or will you stop his pattern of hit-it-and-quit-it?


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Ask Charles: "Am I just being used as a booty call?"

Ask Charles: "Am I just being used as a booty call?"

"I sent him a text last Sunday (the morning after) because I'm getting confused. He was silent all week and then finally answered me (text attached) the next Friday morning with an excuse of 'Sorry, I've been busy,' and a promise that we would talk that night. Same date. No discussion. Great sex. No clarity from him. What's the deal? Am I just being used? Because I feel like it."